Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous

All members of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous are addicts themselves and understand what new members are going through. This group is open to people who are sex addicts, love addicts, or both.

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous Overview

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous provides support to members who want to get help for an obsession with sex or sexual imagery, an unhealthy dependency on someone else, or a preoccupation with fantasy, romance, or intrigue. All members share a desire to recover from their addiction and to live sober lives.


This group views an addiction to sex and/or love as being a disease. It is not curable, but it can be controlled by attending meetings and working through the organization's 12 steps. The person's addiction has damaged his or her life with problems of the addict's personal and professional life. If the problem is not dealt with, it only gets worse.

Traditions, Steps, and Process

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous is a 12-step program that works in a similar way to Alcoholics Anonymous. Attending meetings often helps the addict to maintain sobriety on a daily basis. Members learn that they are not alone and that others have successfully achieved the goal of sobriety and a better quality of life.

Members of this group are self-diagnosed. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous provides a list of 40 questions to help someone decide whether they are an addict. Members respect each other's anonymity and keep items discussed at meetings confidential.

Effectiveness: Does Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous Work?

Following the 12 steps and accepting the help and support of fellow members can help someone recover from their addiction, according to the group's literature.

Getting a Sponsor

A sponsor is someone who has been working the 12 steps for a time and who a new member can look to for help and support. This person must be someone willing to tell the newcomer when they are in denial and prepared to share their experience without telling the other person what to do. The sponsor the newcomer chooses must be someone they will not act out with.

Over time, newcomers to the group will find someone who they feel would be a good sponsor. At that point, they simply approach the person with their request. If the sponsor agrees, they work together on the new member's recovery.

Find a Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous Meeting Near You

The Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous web site provides lists of groups meeting in the United States, Canada, the United Kingdom, Europe, the Middle East, and South America. This group also offers online and telephone meetings.