Sexual Compulsives Anonymous
Sexual Compulsives Anonymous is a group that provides support to its members, who are trying to recover from sexual compulsion. Members of this group define the term "sexual sobriety" for themselves and develop a personalized recovery plan for their recovery.
Sexual Compulsives Anonymous Overview
The goal of this 12-step program is not to have members refrain from expressing their sexuality, but rather to do so in a way that is safe (physically, emotionally, and spiritually) and legal. Being able to be sexual in way that doesn't inappropriately interfere with members' time and energy is part of being sexually sober.
As a 12-step program, Sexual Compulsives Anonymous offers an environment that is welcoming and non-judgmental to its members. It doesn't matter who you are or what you did in the past. What matters is that members want to live in sexual sobriety one day at a time.
Traditions, Steps, and Process
The process involves attending meetings and working through the 12 steps of the program, which are based on the original 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. The group suggests that its members use prayer and meditation as tools to staying sober. Sexual Compulsives Anonymous publishes literature with information for its members as well.
Service is another part of this self-help group. Members provide service to others to whatever extent they can. This may take the form of greeting new members at meetings, passing out flyers, making coffee, or cleaning up after the meeting is finished. Acting as a sponsor is another form of service.
Effectiveness: Does Sexual Compulsives Anonymous Work?
Twelve-step programs can be effective for people who want to achieve sobriety in their lives. If someone is committed to working through the steps, they can reach their goal of stopping compulsive sexual behavior and expressing their sexuality in a healthy way.
Getting a Sponsor
A sponsor is someone who is prepared to provide help and support to a new member of Sexual Compulsives Anonymous. The person should be someone the newcomer feels comfortable with and can talk to. When choosing a sponsor, the newcomer needs to ensure that the person they choose is not someone they will act out with.
The role of the sponsor is to share his or her experiences, as opposed to telling the newcomer how to manage their own recovery. The sponsor is available to the new person in person, by phone, or e-mail. A person acting as a sponsor also has his or her own sponsor and is managing their recovery well.
New members are encouraged to attend several meetings to find someone they would like to sponsor them. When they are ready, they simply ask the person they have chosen to be their sponsor. If the person refuses, then the newcomer is free to approach someone else.
Find a Sexual Compulsives Anonymous Meeting Near You
You can find a list of meetings in the United States, as well as other countries, on the Sexual Compulsives web site. Most of this group's meetings are held in large urban centers, and the group also offers online meetings for people who don't live near a group who meets face to face.